"i invite YOU in": MARRIAGE SEMINAR

We’ve been married for exactly one month thus far, and I have to admit that I have learned so much from this “marriage seminar.”  Here are a few “key” points that have helped me unlock my role as a husband. First of all, the spouse is not to be treated like a house. It is not your job to renovate or mold her, but rather learn to relate to her as you unfold her. You see, if I determine myself to build upon my wife the ideas and “structures” of my own life, then I am only constructing a duplex as opposed to a unit of one flesh.And a duplex is two apartments with a separate entrance for each.  So when a husband creates that, he is setting his relationship up for a break-in and breach.  The devil loves to look for fractures in structures or another entrance to rupture. Thus, the major difference between molding your spouse and unfolding your spouse is how many entryways you create as you relate.With my beautiful bride, I have learned that to unfold her personality and individuality, I must love her with a high degree of intentionality. It is not my job to make her into my image, but to lead her to be secure in Creator God’s image--His image within, that the husband assists in bringing out.Secondly, I have learned that I cannot love Sarah with my own love. Such love is always cheapened love. It always leaves her short changed and leaves me loving her “in my own name.” I must love her as Christ loved the church, self-sacrificial in nature, which brings love of a different stature.  Love that has a heavenly height, and comes down from the Father of lights.  If I don’t love God most, I will never be able to love Sarah best. It’s HIS love!Finally, I’m not perfect and I have made some mistakes these past several weeks. But I tell you the truth; to be a godly husband you must work at staying in the place where your spouse still makes you weak in the knees.“He’s still a newlywed,” some may surmise, “he better still be IN love this early on, hence this blogs no surprise.”I hear ya, but hear this! True love is not love that you get IN, but love that gets IN you. And lasting relational love that gets in you, well, it comes with a name that doesn’t tarry. It’s Jesus, the One who is licensed to marry. He’s the “key” to this seminar and the only reason we’ve made it thus far.And farther still……