our MARRIAGE MENTORs

I’m squeezing these thoughts out as quickly and shapely as possible, because my window to write today suddenly shrunk.  You see,  I just realized today is Wednesday, and Sarah and I have to make our weekly trip to our marriage mentors house. Yep! I like the way that came out—“our marriage mentors.”We are so grateful for Scott and Amy Reef, who have been such godly examples, and love instigators for Sarah and I. Scott and Amy are the perfect duo who God raised up to the task of walking alongside us during this season of our marriage. Our time together with them is very intentional as they encourage us to keep our separate but inseparable lives “eye to eye.”In a marriage union, it is so easy to see from one’s own personal vantage point, but a godly marriage makes sure it takes the precautionary steps to see from the whole marriages standpoint.  And often it takes a 3rd party to help you keep up with your 1st and 2nd priority.  First, loving Jesus most; Second, so you can effectively love your spouse best.Needless to say, it is so easy to miss the inch in front of you because you are so focused on the mile ahead of you. The inch of making sure your spouse feels loved.  And if you get that right, the journey of a mile will be so much smoother.Anyway, the more we meet with Scott and Amy and share relational challenges, the more insight and wisdom we receive from their archive of experiences. They have encouraged Sarah and I along in our journey and they continually remind us that love is daring. It takes supreme kindness and patience. It takes thoughtfulness and gratefulness. Love dares to be Christ-like!I know one thing through all of this and I intend to keep on carrying this most important piece: And that’s how my first ministry is my marriage. If I can’t get that right, I can’t get any other platform right.I cannot stress enough how valuable a marriage mentor is for all young marriages—so blessed to have Scott and Amy in our lives.