The truth behind a healthy and godly relationship has nothing to do with mastering love—that’s impossible—and everything to do with funneling the Master’s love—for with God all things are possible. You see, without Jesus at the center of the marriages soul, there can never be what the world calls “#RelationshipGoals.”It’s not a man and woman working life out together. It’s man and woman allowing God to blend their souls together. Without the Triune God as an intertwining part of the three-fold chord, the two strands called husband and wife will always come undone. “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12).Now I know there are countless marriages that have succeeded without a personal belief and faith in Christ. But let me say this, without the spiritual union in a marriage, those relationship’s are like “lungs” without the breath of life.  And it may be "til death do they part,” but that is exactly when the eternal divorce will start.  So the sad truth is, how good can a marriage actually be that isn’t actually founded on eternity?People reach out to Sarah and I all the time and ask us what the secret to our marriage is. From what they “see,” it looks romantic and authentic. But here’s the truth behind it all: anyone’s relationship can look successful when it’s only a highlight reel that you’re showing. You see, from Facebook poses to Instagram posts, a picture doesn’t tell you the whole picture. Beyond the screens and on the other side of the lens is the rawness of human interaction. And anytime humans interact, you better believe old scabs can be picked at and new wounds can be inflicted. Fights about present disagreements and past allusions most always begin with improper perceptions.  And we are usually not focused enough in the heat of the feud to adjust the focus of our cameras to capture the whole picture of the truth. Unfortunately, that side of our marriage doesn’t make the highlight reel, so people only see the published moments and believe those picture perfect poses are real.There is nothing flawless about our marriage except for the grace of God that has been the main “I do” that truly gets us through.  Sarah and I both say, “I do”, not on our own human merit, but knowing that when there is damage, Jesus is the only one who can repair it.  So we post on Facebook and Instagram, not to show off a beautiful face, but mainly to highlight the fact that we are recipients of Insta-grace!The bottom line is a healthy and godly relationship has nothing to do with being a “master of love” and everything to do with trusting in the Master of Love. His name is Jesus and His grace completes us.